You and I

You and I

I went through life, meandering,
wondering ...
Where life's road is taking me.
One day up, the other, down,
searching ...
Knowing not my destiny.

All these years you were there ;
committed ...
As was I. Firm boundaries in place.
Then one day, these fences fell,
clattering ...
Leaving us both free to choose.

Now we have choices, yes we do -
unlimited ...
A freedom until now not known.
No demands, no expectations ;
hesitating ...
Could we meet our separate needs ?

You are most wonderful by far, more
exceptional ...
Than anyone I've ever met.
You give, you love, you share -
unique ...
Could this be it for both of us ?

You are kind, loving and warm ;
unselfish ...
You give so much day by day.
And I receive that warmth from you,
unending ...
Will you tell me what you really feel ?

The days are early - we have time ;
contemplating ...
About what's important to us both.
If we were meant for one another,
forever ...
Will all be revealed in time to come ?

Regardless of the signs right now,
promising ...
We will soon know if it's for real.
We both need time to heal and grow ;
recovering ...
Before embracing that new tomorrow !

But while we share this journey dear,
together ...
Let's enjoy what's ours to share.
Let's be gentle with each other,
loving ...
And enjoy what fate has sent our way !

I love you angel, that you know ;
Sabrina ...
You are such a perfect mate !
I would take you as my own,
tomorrow ...
If I knew you felt the same.

Friendship, love, respect and trust,
cemented ...
Solidly in place for both of us.
A foundation under construction ;
solid ...
For you, for me, our little ones.

You and I,
Please Lord !
Just let it be.

- by Peter Bester

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You ...

You ...

When I think of you,
so many emotions run through my mind.
When I don't hear from you,
so many concerns tear at me.

Like a mighty waterfall, fierce and thundering
a deafening roar -
spray enveloping everything around.
So am I surrounded by you.

Like a babbling brook,
slipping quietly over pebbles
gently flowing, gurgling.
Such is the peace you give to me.

Like a gentle breeze,
cooling a heated brow
caressing fevered skin.
So you calm my heart.

Like a summer sky,
glimmering sun warming the earth
shining its light around.
So you warm my soul.

Like the birds in the trees,
singing their happy songs
for all to hear.
So your voice cheers me.

Like a rose,
petals opening to release
it's fragrance.
So your smile thrills me.

Like a precious gem,
glowing, polished, rare
admired by all who see it.
So your eyes inspire me.

Like the summer grasses,
waving gently in the breeze
inviting, fragrant, soft.
So you hair invites my touch.

Like a rare parchment,
fine and smooth to touch
finely woven, a work of art.
So your skin delights me.

Like the pulse of Africa,
ever present, powerful
a phenomenon unseen.
So your heart attracts me.

Everything you are
everything you do
each act of kindness
each look
each touch
every smile
every word
all combine to make me
love you more each day.

- by Peter Bester

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My Heart Cries

My Heart Cries

My heart cries, but you don’t hear it.
My heart breaks, but you don’t feel it.
My body longs to feel your arms around me.
My lips long to feel your kisses.
My ears long to hear you say I love you.
My eyes long to see your smile and eyes twinkle.
My life longs to have you in it.
My world longs to have you make it complete.
My body longs to feel you lie next to it.
My love longs to have you return it.
My heart will cry, my heart will break.
My body will go limp, my lips will only speak.
My ears will miss your words, my eyes will shed tears.
My life will be so lonely, my world will be so empty.
My love will go unreturned.
My heart aches as my life is turned inside out.
My mind will never forget, my heart will never let go.
I have loved you since the day I met you
But now my heart cries, and you don’t hear it.

- by Kelly Gray

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Music by the Moon

Music by the Moon

If I could hold you close

When the dark abides,

And your eyes behold

At the break of light,

I'd write music by the moon

And songs by the sun,

And their melody and tune

Would ring you're the one.

- by Sandra Holder

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Why Men Hate to Commit to Women ?

Why Men Hate to Commit to Women ?

Now if your man is having a hard time committing to you, he may be doing so because of one of these reasons :

1. ) He is having all the benefits of being in a romantic relationship without having to commit to you. So if you are giving him all of you without him being fully committed to you for the long haul, you offer to him with a situation where he can’t see tangible reason to take that next step forward since he is getting you free of charge.

2. ) He is concern that what happened to his parents might happen to him so he is being extra careful. Some men want to be in love, but when they remember what happened to their parents — divorce — they get frighten.

3. ) They have not finished sowing their wild oats and committing to you one hundred percent will prevent them from getting their groove on.

4. ) You are not quite what they really want. They are happy being with you, but they not sure if you are exactly what they are searching for. It does not mean that you are up to standard for them ; it is just mean that you do not fit the type of woman they are searching.

For example — some men want wild in bed — a woman with a high sex drive. If you meet their expectations in all the other aspects of life and you just short of the high sex drive they want their future partner to have, they may not want to go into a long term relationship with you.

5. ) You are not challenging them enough. They see you as someone they can pretty much tell anything and get what they want. Men are looking for women they need to work hard to keep.

6. ) You may have some problems with your weight that they may not be very happy with. Sure they may seem to enjoy your company, but the weight issue could be keeping them from turning you the woman of their dreams. Most men are simply concern of the fact that their woman may have the kind of weight that will end up turning them off down the road.

7. ) If you have no ambition or goals, some men will not want to commit to you. If they sense that you are not the type that will contribute to the financial well-being of their home, they will not be very motivated to be with you for the long term.

8. ) You have a tendency to want to control them. If a man sense that you are the [type that will end up wanting to control their life that man is not going to be romantically involved with you for the long haul. He will end up keeping you long enough for him to find someone that will let him be himself.

9. ) He may be in the middle of trying to move onto another relationship that he is working on. While he is trying to make sure that the other woman is the one he desire, he will keep you waiting — he will not be with you.

10. ) If a man sees that you are a big flirt, he will not commit to you. Why ? Well, no man is going to be in a relationship with a woman who cannot control their flirtatious ways with other men.

So there you go, men have tons of reasons why they may not want to commit to women. So if you are not getting the kind of commitment you want from your man, then you need to either change certain things you are doing, or simply let him know what you want and if he does not act on it, then move on.

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Get Your Man Committed - Dating Advice For Women

Get Your Man Committed - Dating Advice For Women

Nothing can be more frustrating than being in a relationship for a long time and never talk about marriage. if your man won’t commit, you might start to think if you are wasting your time. Although it is true that a lasting relationship may not need to include marriage, but if you are looking forward to having kids, or a stronger bond can be created through marriage, then a trip to the altar is something you need to do.

Men often tells you that there is nothing you can do to change the mind of a commitment phobic. That isn’t always true. There is always something you can do to make a man suddenly decide he wants to marry you.

If your man don’t commit, the very last thing you need to do is to nag at him. A man won’t simply decide he wants to marry the woman he love because she keep going on and on about it. In fact, your constant nagging make him more convince in his decision of not marrying you.

One of the best thing any woman can do to make a man commit is to stop bringing the subject up. Men expect to be bombarded by questions on where his relationship is headed. If you don’t bring the subject up, he will be thinking more and more about it.

Another great approach to take if your man doesn’t commit is to make yourself less accessible. One of the issues of long term relationship where there seem to be no commitment is how woman seem to be available. When a woman is always available and willing to adapt to meet her boyfriend’s schedule she’s silently telling him that his needs are more important than hers.

A great test of a man’s true feelings is to make yourself scarce for a few days or weeks. Plan a trip with your girlfriend and when you are out of town, try not to contact your man too often. You want to create a senario where he will start missing you when you are away. It’s that longing to see you that will push him to want to be together with you permanently.

So start testing your man and get him committed.

Do you have any insights to share? Feel free to leave a comment or two. Happy relationship!

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9 Signs of Poor Communication in a Relationship

9 Signs of Poor Communication in a Relationship

68% of the couples that seek counseling state that poor communication is the major stumbling block to a relationship. Apparently, average couples communicate for only 5 minutes a day, yet communication is the most important part of a relationship. Once we stop communicating, stop being affectionate or stop making love, we no longer have a relationship. Yes, its true that there are many couples who lack these three ingredients and are still together, as two very unhappy individuals.

Communication is not just verbal. It include every message, feelings and thoughts that we convey through eye contact, emotion or body language. The secret of effective communication is to know how to avoid the harmful interactions.

Poor communicators tend to debate about an issue or discussion, blame one another in order to boost their egos and find scapegoats. Everything to them is a competition and they are more interested in being right than a successful relationship. They perceive themselves as smart and knowledgeable and never tend to give an inch to others, consistently demand their own right of way. They are not focused on the relationship they share, only on the arguments, tending to be secretive, self righteous and in denial, so conditions are always tense as they compete for control.

To them, the important is ‘who win’ and ‘who is right or wrong’ without being sensitive to others’ feelings or fears. For them, there is only and ever one way of doing things - their way. No one else method is valid or ever accepted.

Characteristics of poor communicators :

Criticism

They usually have alot to critise, put down or blame for their partner. The trouble with blame is that it keep us focus on their partner and not able to see or aceept our own fault.

Defensive

Neither partner will care about each other. Both are busy defending themselves from the blame or put down and getting their own point across.

Sanity

Poor communicators are usually the ones who think that they are ’sane’, ‘reasonable’ and ‘caring’.

Denial of Discussion

They response to criticism in a defensive manner, constantly denying and making excuses. They even blame their partner for being ‘emotional’, ’stupid’ or ‘mad’.

Biased Perception

Usually, individual perceptions are biased, distorted or contradictory. They are also more likely to be exaggerated and angry instead of compromise.

Straying from the issues

They tend to stray from the main issue and put the blame on their partner. Sometimes adding insults and complains without adding anything constructive.

Mind Reading

They tend to ‘mind read’ or ‘psychoanalyze’ their partner. Usually, it comes together with rolling of eyes, mocking or interrupting constantly.

Holding Out

Poor communicators have great determination to hold out and never ‘give in’ until they win. Usually it ends with alot of anger or dead silence.

Stonewalling

When the attacks get too much, or when they hear something they do not like, there is likely to be no response. Instead poor communicators withdraw from the situation in a self-righteous way ( stonewalling ), preventing any kind of discussion or resolution.

Now that you have learn about some tell tale signs of a poor communicator, check to see if you are the one who is poor in communication or is it your partner?

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Why Does Relationship Break Up ?

Why Does Relationship Break Up ?

Relationship break-ups have their own reasons, and each are different, to be considered on a case by case basis. The essentials of a relationship are love, time spent together, commitment, loyalty and a little bit of compromise. It takes two to clap. So in a good relationship, both will have to commit to the relationship. Once any factor is missing from at least one party, the relationship may start to break.

A new relationship is as delicate as a plant. Efforts and time must be spent so that it can grow. And once the relationship matures, it will be a strong one that will be difficult to break from external sources. At that stage love is very strong, and both are fully aware how deep each other’s love is.

No one can try to separate them, and the love lasts even if they have to be separated by long distances. Such a love is strong. It is called true love, and sadly not everyone can claim to achieve it.

A new relationship needs a lot of time. You have to spend a lot of time with each other, to know what each other like and dislikes, and to know how they would like to be loved. The deeper the understanding, the stronger the love will be. Deep understanding takes a lot of time spent together, and a lot of communication.

Before you even start a new relationship, think of how much time you are going to spend on it. All relationships should be taken seriously and you must be willing to sacrifice time to spend with your partner. The amount of time you are willing to spend have to be long term.

Know that for any healthy relationships, inputs will have to come from both sides. It’s perfectly alright that the man initiates most of them, but the woman will have to commit too. The relationship should be seen as a mutual contribution instead of a one-sided solo project.

The above tips followed properly would ensure a healthy relationship. It may be difficult to agree with yourself to commit at first but once that period of struggling is over, you will learn to swim in the river of love.

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The Art of Body Language

The Art of Body Language

Body language is a powerful communication tool. Someone who knows how to read them sees intentions more clearly than words can do. Women are better used to this language than men and they do it quite skilfully.

The more eye contact the woman makes with the target, the more she shows interest. When the woman looks at the man directly, and the man catches her doing it, she will lower her eyes and smile indicating interest, happiness and embarrassment that he caught her stare. This is a sure sign of attraction.

Conversely, if a man looks at the woman, and she looks away or any some other things like ceiling and walls, that is a definite sign of disinterest. It’s good to know that eye movements show a lot.

The hands can send various clear messages. Hands open convey that the woman is open to him. Starting any conversation will be good. She may also touch him “accidentally” to convey interest. Psychology can help us get deeper into that. On the other hand, hands which are closed or not shown, shows signs of lack of interest.

As we know, posture conveys a lot about a person. An open posture shows that the person is comfortable in his/her own skin and is an open person. Turning towards the man she is talking with and leaning forward shows interest. She may also cross then uncross her legs, tilt her head slightly. These, too, are signs of interest. If she crosses her arms, hold her drink high in front of her or turns her body away, it’s time to move on because it shows either insecurity of her or merely signs of certain disinterest.

A good way to build rapport is to mirror the other person’s body movements. By doing so, we are trying to sync with the other person, and make us feel like we are similar. This is a good way to build attraction, because the person will feel close to you. As mentioned above, good eye contact is necessary. But avoid fidgety movements because it shows insecurity.

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101 Romantic Things You Can Do With Your Spouse - Part #1

101 Romantic Things You Can Do With Your Spouse - Part #1

I believe romance is something most couple lack, especially after a few years of courtship. Therefore, I intent to focus more on romantic ideas in this blog hoping to spice up your love life. Lets begin with a list of romantic things that you can do with your life partner. It will be a long list, thus I have broken up into 2 parts. It will be something you wanted, and I believe it’s going to be well worth it.

#1 - Watch the sunset together.

#2 - Take showers together.

#3 - Back rubs/massages.

#4 - Listen to classical music and cuddle in the dark or with blacklight.

#5 - French Kiss.

#6 - Hold your wife with hands inside the back of her shirt.

#7 - Whisper to each other.

#8 - Cook for each other.

#9 - Skinny dip ( discreetly ).

#10 - Make out in the rain.

#11 - Dress each other.

#12 - Undress each other.

#13 - Kiss every part of your wife’s body.

#14 - Hold hands.

#15 - Sleep together. ( Actually sleep with each other ... not sex )

#16 - One word ... Foreplay.

#17 - Sit and talk.

#18 - Buy gifts for each other.

#19 - Roses.

#20 - Wear your lifemate’s favorite cologne/perfume every time you’re together.

#21 - Wear your husband’s clothes.

#22 - Find a nice secluded place to lie and watch the stars.

#23 - Incense/candles/oils/blacklights and music make for great cuddling/sex.

#24 - Kiss at every chance you get.

#25 - Don’t wear underwear and let them find out.

#26 - Kinky is bad ... Blindfolds are good.

#27 - Lightly kiss their collarbone and their jawbone just below the ear, then whisper “I love you”.

#28 - Bubble baths.

#29 - Go for a long walk down the beach at midnight.

#30 - Make love.

#31 - Write poetry for each other.

#32 - Kiss and smell your wife’s hair.

#33 - Hugs are the universal medicine.

#34 - Say “I love you”, only when you mean it and make sure they know you mean it.

#35 - Give random gifts of flowers/candy/poetry, etc ...

#36 - Tell your wife that she’s the only girl you ever want. Don’t lie.

#37 - Spend every second possible together.

#38 - Tell your wife that she doesn’t have to do anything she doesn’t want to. And mean it.

#39 - Look into each other’s eyes.

#40 - Very lightly push up your wife’s chin, look into her eyes, tell her you love her, and kiss her lightly.

#41 - Talk to each other using only body language and your eyes.

#42 - When in public, flirt with each other.

#43 - Walk behind your wife and put your hands in her front pockets.

#44 - Put love notes in your lifemate’s pockets when they aren’t looking.

#45 - Clothes are no fun.

#46 - Buy your wife a ring.

#47 - Keep something special of your wife’s/your husband’s somewhere where you see it everyday.

#48 - Sing to each other.

#49 - Read to each other.

#50 - PDA = Public Displays of Affection.

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Are You Balding ? How Can You Find a Date ?

Are You Balding ? How Can You Find a Date ?

Balding is a common sign in our society. As our hair is part of our features, they can contribute to our dating success as well. While a lot of women make it a point that they only date men with healthy-looking hair, balding men do find their suitors too. The measure of a man is not solely his hair or his face for that matter, but the entire package ; personality, dressing style, communication skills and of course feelings.

Look at Matsumoto Hitoshi, a famous comedian of Japan. He is bald, but the people love him. Bald man can be interesting, humorous, charismatic, fine-looking and pleasant, like Matsumoto. In fact, Matsumoto can put many men to shame when it comes to being likeable. So neither society nor the bald man should look too deeply into the hair problem.

Still, there are some women who only like guys with a lot of hair. It is merely a matter of preference, thus calling them shallow amounts to over-generalization. Some associate hair loss to illness and while it may be true for a very small minority, balding is as common a sign of age as wrinkles. Other factors to contribute to balding will be diet, lifestyle, genetics, and daily care, the right use of hair products and a bit of luck. As with all other issues, different societies feel balding very differently. Some have already seen it as common and trivial.

Then so, why are balding men still losing out ? One of the reasons is it may be seen as unhealthy to lose hair. Therefore, with that concept in mind, the woman will find it hard to accept the man’s courtship. This is the most common reason. The other may be more obvious : they have mediocre personalities like the rest of the loveless men. Therefore, it takes some luck along with a good personality.

If one is bald and has a good character, then he deserves a woman that loves him just like the other men. The largest obstacle is probably the confidence. Any attitude will show on your face, whether it’s good or bad, or whether you know it or not. A bald man who feels insecure needs to read up on confidence and the philosophies of life, and get the truth that life and dove is not all about hair. Date confidently and be comfortable about yourself and this will show on your face. Confidence does makes a difference in physical appearance too, and it’s more obvious than we think.

However, if a bald man should attempt to date a new woman and the woman has started to show disinterest without even knowing his personality, then it’s time to move on. After all, perception is a difficult subject and we cannot force ours on everyone, even if it is closer to truth.

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History of Valentines Greetings

History of Valentines Greetings

Verses and Valentine greetings were popular as far back as the Middle Ages, when lovers said or sang their valentines. Written valentines began to appear after 1400. The oldest "valentine" in existence was made in the 1400's and is in the British Museum. Paper valentines were exchanged in Europe where they were given in place of valentine gifts. Paper valentines were especially popular in England. Early valentines were made by hand and were made with colored paper, watercolors, and colored inks

There were many different types of handmade valentines, including :

Acrostic valentines - Had verses in which the first lines spelled out the loved one's name.

Cutout valentines - Made by folding the paper several times and then cutting out a lacelike design with small, sharp, pointed scissors.

Pinprick valentines - Made by pricking tiny holes in a paper with a pin or needle. creating the look of lace.

Theorem or Poonah valentines - Designs that were painted through a stencil cut in oil paper, a style that came from the Orient.

Rebus valentines - Verses in which tiny pictures take the place of some of the words. ( an eye would take the place of the word I )

Puzzle Purse valentines - A folded puzzle to read and refold. Among their many folds were verses that had to be read in a certain order.

Fraktur valentines - Had ornamental lettering in the style of illuminated manuscripts of the Middle Ages.

In the early 1800's, valentines began to be assembled in factories. Early manufactured valentines were black and white pictures that were painted by workers in a factory. Fancy valentines were made with real lace and ribbons, with paper lace introduced in the mid 1800's. By the end of the 1800's valentines were being made entirely by machine.

In the early 1900's a card company named Norcross began to manufacture valentines. Each year Hallmark displays its collection of rare and antique valentines at card shops around the country. Museums and Libraries also offer antique valentine exhibitions around St. Valentine's Day.

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History of Cupid and Valentine's Day

History of Cupid and Valentine's Day

Many wonder where did Cupid come from and why is he associated with Valentine's Day.

Cupid has long played a role in the celebrations of love and lovers. He is known as a mischievous, winged child, whose arrows who would pierce the hearts of his victims causing them to fall deeply in love. In ancient Greece he was known as Eros the young son of Aphrodite, the goddess of love and beauty. To the Roman's he was Cupid, and his mother Venus

One legend tells the story of Cupid and the mortal maiden, Psyche. Venus was jealous of the beauty of Psyche, and ordered Cupid to punish the mortal. But instead, Cupid fell deeply in love with her. He took her as his wife, but as a mortal she was forbidden to look at him. Psyche was happy until her sisters convinced her to look at Cupid. Cupid punished her by departing. Their lovely castle and gardens vanished with him and Psyche found herself alone in an open field

As she wandered to find her love, she came upon the temple of Venus. Wishing to destroy her, the goddess of love gave Psyche a series of tasks, each harder and dangerous than the last. For her last task Psyche was given a little box and told to take it to the underworld. She was told to get some of the beauty of Proserpine, the wife of Pluto, and put it in the box.

During her trip she was given tips on avoiding the dangers of the realm of the dead. And also warned not to open the box. Temptation would overcome Psyche and she opened the box. But instead of finding beauty, she found deadly slumber

Cupid found her lifeless on the ground. He gathered the sleep from her body and put it back in the box. Cupid forgave her, as did Venus. The gods, moved by Psyche's love for Cupid made her a goddess.

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Valentine's Day

Valentine's Day

Valentine's Day, February 14 is the second most celebrated day in the United States, after December 25. Here are some elements that make Valentine's Day fun and romantic.

History of St. Valentine's Day

Every February, across the country, candy, flowers, and gifts are exchanged between loved ones, all in the name of St. Valentine. But who is this mysterious saint and why do we celebrate this holiday ?

The history of Valentine's Day -- and its patron saint -- is shrouded in mystery. But we do know that February has long been a month of romance. St. Valentine's Day, as we know it today, contains vestiges of both Christian and ancient Roman tradition.

So, who was Saint Valentine and how did he become associated with this ancient rite ? Today, the Catholic Church recognizes at least three different saints named Valentine or Valentinus, all of whom were martyred.

One legend contends that Valentine was a priest who served during the third century in Rome. When Emperor Claudius II decided that single men made better soldiers than those with wives and families, he outlawed marriage for young, single men -- his crop of potential soldiers. Valentine, realizing the injustice of the decree, defied Claudius and continued to perform marriages for young lovers in secret. When Valentine's actions were discovered, Claudius ordered that he be put to death.

Other stories suggest that Valentine may have been killed for attempting to help Christians escape harsh Roman prisons where they were often beaten and tortured.

According to one legend, Valentine actually sent the first 'valentine' greeting himself. While in prison, it is believed that Valentine fell in love with a young girl -- who may have been his jailor's daughter -- who visited him during his confinement. Before his death, it is alleged that he wrote her a letter, which he signed 'From your Valentine,' an expression that is still in use today.

Although the truth behind the Valentine legends is murky, the stories certainly emphasize his appeal as a sympathetic, heroic, and, most importantly, romantic figure. It's no surprise that by the Middle Ages, Valentine was one of the most popular saints in England and France.

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Things you can Do Together when you are Not Together

Things you can Do Together when you are Not Together

Long distance relationships can take it’s toil when they realize there is nothing much they can do together. This article gives you some ideas on what you can do without to spice up your long distance relationship. Hope that the ideas can get you closer to your partner.

#1 - Watch something simultaneously together !

Make a date or time of the night and watch something together could spice up the relationship. This is a good idea if you find yourself running out of things to talk about on the phone. Doing this takes off the pressure of talking since you’ll both be into the show/movie, plus it gives you something to talk about afterward !

#2 - Send your spouse flowers

Do something special once in a while. There are many flower shops that can help send flowers for you. If you don’t want to spend on real flowers, try the virtual ones. Visit Flowers2Mail.com and spice up your relationship.

#3 - Play a game together

There are a few free online games where you can play together. Try Yahoo! Games or Pogo.com.

#4 - Get a webcam

If you don’t have one already, get one. Seeing each other online is another way to get closer to each other. You may visit skype which offers similiar services.

#5 - Send an e-card !

Similar to sending a virtual bouquet, sending a hiliarious e-card can improve your relationship. If you are sick and tired of lame e-cards found online, try SomeEcards.com. But if you are easily offended by vulgarities, this site is not for you.

#6 - HoochyMail !

HoochyMail is a service that allows you to create thrilling, sexy or X-rated story about yourself and your special someone. I am sure it can bring laughter if not shocked to your love one.

#7 - Pictures, Pictures, Pictures

If you do not have webcams yet, the next best thing to do is to email pictures. This will brighten up your love one if he/she had a bad day. Another great idea is to create photo album for each other. A great site is Webshots.com

#8 - Share a journal

You could create an online journal at online journal websites such as Xanga.com and LiveJournal.com These both have privacy controls so you can control who sees your journal. Through online journals, you could get closer to your love ones even if you both are world’s apart.

#9 - Learn new things about each other

Do you think that you have nothing more to learn about your partner ? Try this ... When it’s one of those days where you guys just can’t think of anything to talk about, try asking questions.

#10 - Sing karaoke together!

This is a cool idea I’ve come across. If you are a die hard karaoke singers, this might be some fun, and something you can do online with your love! You will need a webcam and mic for this one. There are many websites out there that offer this type of activity. Search for “Free Online Karaoke.”

#11 - Read a book together

This is great for couples who have limited time together. Find a book you think you both would enjoy and and agree to read a chapter every night. Reading together, can open up lots of discussion, and can help boost a relationship in which both people feel they have run out of things to talk about.

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Why its Good to be in a Long Distance Relationship ?

Why its Good to be in a Long Distance Relationship ?


There is a saying “distant makes the heart grew fonder”. Lets say today you run into someone and you like him/her. But he/she is staying half way across the country. One part of you will say, “damn, that’s too far”, another part will be saying, “well, this could just work out”.

How on earth can a long distant relationship be a good thing ? Let me uncover the mystery for you and maybe, you can consider having a long distant relationship.

1. ) Distance will make you appreciate one another more

We tend to take things for granted especially when we are meeting our love ones everyday. When your partner is world apart from you, you will need to use your imagination more than ever. Think of the things you are gonna do when you meet up. Turn on the music and stare up into the sky, now, do you wish your partner is by your side ?

2. ) More time for yourself

In a long distant relationship, you have more motivation, more time to exercise and keep yourself fit. Not only that, you can work more on your career and spend more time with your family. Think about all the things you can accomplish within a day.

3. ) Planning the next meeting is always exciting

It gives you something to look forward to and a chance to escape from your daily life. If traveling starts to get expensive, work together to find a cheaper means of travel and split the cost from time to time. I like to think of it as an adventure and at the end of the adventure is your wonderful treasure.

4. ) A long distant relationship can be a lot stronger than a normal one

Getting through a long distance relationship can be very rewarding for both of you. Think about all the courage it takes to trust somebody thousands of miles away and still be positive.

Give yourselves a round of applause. You now share a strength that is impenetrable.

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Top 10 "Must Know" Dating Tips For Guys

Top 10 "Must Know" Dating Tips For Guys

Dating for guys should be a relax and informal situation. However, most guys tend to tense up making it very difficult for themselves when it comes to dating. Here are top 10 tips that every man should know to make it alot more easier for you. Read on ...

Try to look at your best

If it’s the first date, it’s especially important to dress at your best. They say that the first impression will last forever, so why not also be the best impression ? Know what kind of clothes look good on you and try to achieve a cool, confidence appearance with that. The most important thing about dressing is that the shirt must be ironed and not wrinkled. Its stain free and look perfectly good on you.

Once you know the importance of dressing. The next is the scent. According to dating expert, a guy’s smell will either increase the attractiveness of the guy or turn the girl off. Remember to spay the right amount of perfume at the right place like neck, wrist and chest.

Finally, be clean shave, brush your teeth, style your hair or get a good haircut, check your face on the mirror and lastly cut your nails and now, you are ready to go.

Be on time

Patience is a virtue but being late is not an excuse. In fact its a sign for not caring. If the girl is late, try telling her to make it up by buying you a drink, but do it in a teaseful manner.

Find the best place

You and your date should agree on where to go beforehand. As an alpha male, you should have a plan and suggest where to meet. If both of you have different ideas on where to go, try to compromise. Let the ladies decide first and you will decide on the next date. Just remember to find a place where the two of will be comfortable while having fun at the same time.

Mind your manners

All that you know about manners and etiquette will be helpful during dating. Show that you are helpful and be a gentleman by opening the door, pulling out the chair for her. Believe me, all of things will be important with her.

Make sure you can spit good game

No one likes a boring date, so make an effort to make it interesting. Communicate with her, and get to know here. You do not have to impress her. Ask her questions and let her ask you too. Say the right thing at the right time and avoid embarrassing questions like your ex, her ex and politics.

Be spontaneous

The best dating tip i can offer to guys is being spontaneous. Do not have to be conscious of what will happen next or will the she be happy with the date. Relax, be laid back, have fun during the date and everything else will fall in to places.

The payment method

Most of the time, its the men who pay the bill. But there are instances where women likes to shoulder the bill. On the first date, there is no need to bring her to fine restaurant. Go for something you can afford and when the bill comes, just say, “Don’t worry I got it’s no big deal”. The only reason you take your date to the fine restraunt is when she is your girlfriend. Even then, you only take her once a while.

Make the Best of your date

Every date should be memorable and special. How to do it will depend on you and the girl itself. Make her feel special during the date and it will guarantee a follow up date.

The kissing game

The most asked question, shall I kiss my date ? Well, that decision lies in you my friend. However, there are some signs which the women gives out that may be a sign. For example, she’s looking at you with an intense gaze, she licks her lips while looking at you, she laughs as everything you say, or she does the hair toss. All these are signals that means kissing is around the corner.

The phone call

There are some rules that says that you should call her 2 days after the date. There is nothing wrong in calling her the following day but don’t make a big deal out of it. Simply give her a call and start a conversation where you left behind the day before so it’s still fresh in her mind.

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Dos and Don'ts for your First Date - For Men

Dos and Don'ts for your First Date - For Men


First, lets chat about the most important "dos" and "don'ts" for your first date.

Tip #1 - Be on time. It's rude to keep your date waiting.

Tip #2 - Make a great impression. Look your best because first impressions last !

Tip #3 - Best recommend your first meeting over dinner, preferably on Friday or Saturday night ... Also avoid catching a movie. Your first date should be over dinner at a quiet, romantic restaurant. It's best to meet early on Saturday evening so you will feel relaxed and have plenty of time to talk and get to know each other.

Tip #4 - Show your best side and keep your conversation light-hearted. Work on building chemistry.

Tip #5 - Be positive. Don't be grumpy or complain about things or people.

Tip #6 - Don't talk about past relationships.

Tip #7 - Don't talk about marriage, children or whether you want your spouse to stay at home to look after the kids.

Tip #8 - Don't ask personal questions such as : Why are you still single ? How much money you make ?

Tip #9 - If you don't feel any chemistry on the first meeting, don’t walk out on your date. Simply end it on a positive note.

Tip #10 - If you’re undecided after the first date, don’t be hasty to make up your mind. Feel free to ask some experts for help, discuss your concerns. You may also refer to the 300 creative and inexpensive dates ideas reveal by a love expert. Check out below.

Tip #11 - If you both decide to meet again, choose to do something different so that you will get to see each other in a new light. A casual afternoon strolls or picnic on the beach. This time, wear comfortable clothing so that you will feel more relaxed.

Tip #12 - For the third date, you should initiate the meeting.

Stay tune for the 2nd part of "Dos and Don'ts for your First Date - For Women".

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Dachshund

Dachshund

Breed Group : Hound

Color :

Solid red, sable, or cream; black and tan, chocolate and tan, wild boar and tan, gray and tan, or fawn and tan, brindle

Coat :

The Dachshund comes in three different varieties. The Smooth Haired Dachshund, Wirehaired Dachshund, and the Longhaired Dachshund. He also comes in two different sizes being standard and miniature. The Longhaired Dachshund has a long and straight coat, with hair slightly feathered and longer on the underbelly, ears, chest, and legs. The Smooth Coat has a straight, smooth, short, and glossy coat that should all be of equal length along the body of the dog. The Wirehaired has a coat of broken appearance with wiry, coarse, and harsh hair.

Overview :

The Dachshund was originally developed in German hundreds of years ago. They were originally bred for hunting Badger, hence the name Dachshund. "Dachs" is the German word for Bader. The elongated body and the shortened legs were bred into this dog to dig the prey out and go inside their burrows forcing them to leave their dens. The Miniature variety was bred to hunt hare and stoat. This breed has also been known to hunt foxes and otters along with the badger.

Character :

Dachshunds are a very clownish breed and can be very mischievous at times. A very intuitive dog, the Dachshund is now most commonly seen as a companion rather than a hunter. This breed loves to be around people and should never exhibit signs of aggression or timidity. The Dachshund is an all around friendly dog, is very outgoing, and is sure to steal the hearts of everyone he meets.

Temperament :

The Dachshund is a fun loving dog, tenacious, and lively, but can become jealous and be very irritable. This breed does not do well with smaller children, but can do very well with older and more considerate children. Due to his small size and tiny legs, this breed should not be placed in a home with larger dogs unless they were raised around each other. The Dachshund has the tendency to become jealous, however can do very well with many other toy breeds in the home providing they are not snippy.

Care :

The Long Haired variety requires quite a bit of grooming. Being that this dog is so low to the ground, he is prone to getting burrs, sticks, and twigs stuck in his coat which should be removed daily if any are present. Brushing of the coat should be done on a regular basis to prevent tangling and/or matting. The Smooth Haired variety doesn't require much grooming and would respond well to an occasional wipe down with a damp towel, or a harsh towel to remove any dead or loose hair.

Training :

The Dachshund can be stubborn at times, making training a little bit difficult for the average owner. This breed requires firm and consistent handling, but can be a little sensitive so he should always be corrected in a gentle manner, never harsh or this breed could become submissive and timid. Dachshunds respond best to a variety of training methods.

Activity :

The Dachshund can be lively and vivacous, however he does not need much exercise. A short walk per day would suffice for this short-bodied breed. The Dachshund tends to tire out easily so any exercise provided should be given at different times rather than one long walk. This breed is prone to back problems so high jumping and/or running should never be allowed.

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Chihuahua

Chihuahua

Breed Group : Toy

Color : Any

Coat :
The Chihuahua coat comes in two varieties: The Smooth and Long coat. The Smooth coat has a glossy, soft, and close coat which is full textured over the entire body, but quite scanty on the head and ears. The Long coat has a soft, longer coat that can be slightly curly or flat. This variety does have an under-coat. Either coat type comes in a variety of colors such as fawn, brown, black, and white. The coat may be solid in color, marked with splashes of color, or tri-color. They are an average shedder.

Overview :
The Chihuahua is the smallest of all breeds and has the distinction of being the oldest breed in America. They were named after the Chihuahua region in Mexico. It is believed that this breed descended from ancient breed that was larger in size and highly prized by Aztec royalty. The Chihuahua of today has a very fine bone structure, but are actually quite muscular.

Character :
The Chihuahua is a very individualistic breed. They each have their own unique personality, so only a few generalizations can be made. They are commonly referred to as a "Chi". They are energetic, graceful, and display a human-like expression. Their life span is the longest of any size dog.

Temperament :
The Chihuahua is deeply devoted and fiercely loyal. They typically become extremely attached to one or two people. They are bold, fearless, and highly protective of their masters. They thrive on inordinate amounts of attention. The Chihuahua is by nature gentle, loving, and sweet-tempered. They are wary of strangers and make excellent watchdogs. This breed is not well suited for children or other pets. However, they are sociable with their own kind. Chihuahuas are excellent companions in the right circumstances.

Care :
The Chihuahua requires minimal grooming. The Smooth coat variety requires only occasional brushing. The Long coat variety should be brushed several times a week with a soft bristle brush. Both varieties only need bathing once a month using a mild shampoo. Special care must be given to not get water into their ears as they are prone to ear infections. Dental hygiene is a must to prevent tooth loss. The health issues that affect this breed include slipped stifles, open font or soft spot, eye problems, and heart disease. The Chihuahua does not tolerate cold climates and must be protected when taken outside.

Training :
The Chihuahua can be difficult to train, but with patience, love, and consistency do well. They respond best to positive reinforcement. Chihuahuas can be housetrained by either the crate method or the paper training method. Early, extensive, and intensive socialization is an absolute must for this breed.

Activity :
The Chihuahua is an excellent apartment or condominium dweller. The majority of their exercise needs can be met indoors with toys or play sessions. However, they greatly enjoy going with their owners and benefit from daily walks. Using a harness is recommended instead of a leash is best given their delicate neck and bone structure.

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