Anybody reading this hoping for a quick fix formula for a successful marriage, look away now.
According to a poll of 4,000 married couples, the secret to a happy marriage is spending at least 22 periods of ‘quality time’ together a month, with at least seven cosy nights in and two proper dinner dates.
Cuddles, it seems hold the key, with couples who cuddle four times a day rating their marriage as very happy.
And romantic gestures such as running a nice bath or a back massage are necessary every 10 days.
Those who described themselves as ‘very happy’ say the key to a successful partnership lies in spending lots of quality time together.
“Affection, cuddles and romantic gestures are part of a whole romantic scene which is desired by those entering a relationship.” said Chief Educational Psychologist, Dr Ludwig F.Lowenstein.
"They are the safe gestures which say - ‘I like you, I am glad to be with you, I like and appreciate your support and care".
"In this busy world we often take our partners for granted whilst we get on with our daily struggles of work and rearing a family".
"We tend to forget the importance of hugs when familiarity becomes part of our lives, and as the saying goes ‘familiarity breeds contempt’, but if affection, cuddles and romantic gestures become part of our relationship then the relationship will become strong and remain strong".
The survey revealed that the average happy couple enjoy two romantic walks, one visit to the pub and one trip to the cinema every month.
They will also spend a few romantic evenings in - eating dinner by candlelight three times a month, engaging in a proper conversation six times a month and curling up in front of the TV together seven times a month.
Flowers & Chocolates
Twice a month husband and wife should shower each other with surprise gifts - such as flowers and chocolates, or more personal items such as a soppy poem or a favourite piece of music.
A good marriage would also allow each partner to enjoy a night away from home without the other, in the company of their own friends.
Simple acts such as cleaning the house from top to bottom without being asked, or making breakfast in bed show respect for the other spouse.
And the loved-up pair will pack their bags to enjoy two short breaks in the UK and two longer holidays abroad every year.
Jim Forward of Warner Leisure Hotels, said : "Cuddles and romantic weekends away are key for a great relationship and now it’s been confirmed. It proves how important it is for couples to make time for each other".
"A successful relationship is built on trust and love for each other. This should be communicated or shown whenever couples have the chance".
"But Brits are increasingly becoming rushed off their feet and it’s sometimes easy to forget to fully appreciate your ‘other half".
A staggering 98 per cent of the ‘very happy’ couples say they feel really lucky to be in such a stable relationship - and 94 per cent genuinely believe no other relationship is as solid as theirs.
The Key to Long Lasting Relationship :
Cuddles : 4 a day
Romantic gestures : 3 a month
Dinner dates : 2 a month
Romantic walks : 2 a month
Romantic gifts : 2 a month
Home cooked romantic meals : 3 a month
Breakfast in bed : 1 a month
Proper conversation : 6 a month
Trip to the pub : 1 a month
Cosy evenings in : 7 a month
Clean house from top to bottom : 3 a month
Night out without each other : 1 a month
Cinema or theatre : 1 a month
Short UK break : 2 a year
Holiday : 2 a year
After reading this article, I am fully convince that it does take time and effort to build a solid relationship. A lot of times relationship falls apart due to lack of communication. Yes, hugs and kisses are a form of non-verbal communication.
Remember to have a check list and take your daily dose of intimacy. Have a great relationship !
Thanks for Reading
Good Luck !
Wingcent Ning
wingcent@singnet.com.sg
WingcentDotDreams.com
Singapore
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